Spirit Stuff

And here is the oyster to this story: this concept is imperative right now because Carl Rogers found within the UPR practice is a curious paradox: that by creating a safe space of acceptance for what simply IS, the energy that creates growth and change then has a place to ignite.

Attitude is the difference between an adventure or an ordeal, and while this experience was both, I think my deep desire to recapture my state of wellness was the magic sauce. The body is genius at recovery and resilience, and it is always, always striving to return to a healthy homeostasis.

But it is satisfying to name this interim time and space and I do love the word liminality. It kind of shimmers and sparks, and being in a mindful place during it I can see myself in a kind of slow motion. I can see and feel more gratitude for the hot coffee and the running water, and I can make more consciously aligned decisions as I bridge to the next thing.

There are three parts to the framework of a spiritual life: insightful relationship with oneself, a strong personal value system, and a fulfillment of meaningful purpose. We each create and explore our unique spiritual paths using our intuition, influences, and appetites as our guide. The energy source for this growth is Meraki, the soul creativity or core put into something, the essence of our self that is devoted to our pursuits.

For us, the antidote to boredom is to arrest the feeling that that we are waiting for life to happen—or that it is passing us by­. ‘Life. Be in it’. is our watchword, and by making playtime a priority, it helps us to create momentum as a couple.

Among the hustle and bustle, I am gifting myself the opportunity for more tender loving exchanges with strangers and with loved ones.

The holidays promise to be ripe and juicy—from cranberries to combat—so I thought it might be worthwhile to examine The Rules of Civility that could carry us through the season with a bit more understanding and grace for those we choose (or are compelled) to share our time with.

I live full time on the thin edge of the wedge—always at the beginning of something that has the potential to become more dangerous or unpleasant. I live one vertigo twirl away from being deeply humiliated.

All human interaction is gonna have stuff that stinks to deal with. If we can sharpen our skills and pour conflict through the composting process of our hearts and minds, we can refresh the result into something rich with possibility.

If the energy feels selfless and easy, a flow situation free of expectations, it’s probably an authentically generous act. If it feels complicated—if resources of time, money, or convenience are being overly compromised—or if boundaries are being crossed, then it’s more likely a People Pleasing situation.

Articulating our life purpose is simple: we were put on this earth to enjoy our lives. Period. To make manifest of this, each of us possesses a unique purpose—it’s our gift to humanity. The more of us who live in this conscious knowledge and make a practice of purposeful living, the more divine our collective vibrational energy can be.

It took me twenty years to quit drinking overnight. I am four years alcohol free, and I have never looked back. My only regret about quitting is that I didn’t do it sooner…

Throughout this emotional holiday hijacking by pandemic worry, I am constantly calibrating, course correcting, and recovering…

‘Pre-annoyed’ is quickly becoming my pandemic default—it’s the first step on the slippery slope to outrage…

We need to notice these small lie infractions: they are both valuable clues and dangerous warnings because they are part of a chronic pattern of toxic behavior. Lying is a way to stay emotionally unavailable, create drama, or play the victim…

The unthought known is what we know deep in our bones but cannot think, much less speak, because it feels too bizarre, scary, or even dangerous…

Traditionally querencia means the spot in the bullfight arena that is taken by the bull for a defensive stand in a fight. It’s the place the bullfighter dreads the bull finding, because the bull will win if it finds this sweet spot of safety—this is the place where the bull harnesses all its desire and life force to survive…

Holding grudges was my way of staying safe and feeling right. There’s nothing like a strong shot of indignation to feed the fires of self-righteousness …Problem is, that kind of energy grows like a cancer inside our cells, blocking the energy flow of goodness—how much stale energy and anger can we carry until all the exits are blocked?

A practice of mindfulness can be something totally private, yet so filled with goodness that it simply permeates the atmosphere and ripples it’s incandescent energy to others…

Personally, I don’t think we have been living our core values as a culture, or as global citizens; so much feels strangled right now, from Congress to our climate. Collectively and individually we are being given this time to reflect, refresh, and reignite our true soul’s purpose on this earth: how to live at our highest good.

There is a reason there are so many portals to the path—the divine light beings are looking to connect with us in any way they possibly can.

…it's the hallmark of being emotionally literate and connected in the process of a genuine conversation…

In its simplest form, we make good Nakoma by practicing good Nakoma: treating others as we would like to be treated.

My monkey mind is constantly swinging from tree to tree, grabbing bananas, pitching peels, sending texts…

That's the day my wise, intuitive middle daughter gifted the 25th anniversary edition to me.

Here is the energy that I will be channeling more closely in 2019…

Booze: keep it or leave it? It's a question I had flirted with over the past several years…

Brakes are metaphorical and real in my life….

When the terrorist in my head took a break, I napped or had short lucid periods…